If my husband takes a second wife, will I be rewarded?

 

What is the reward, "ajr", for the first wife having patience ,"sabr", when her husband takes a second wife? Is there a special reward in this case, or is it the same reward for all women who obey their husbands and make their religious duties? If I would get to know about a special reward, things would be easier to accept. Someone said that the reward for this kind of woman was more than the reward for a mu´min leaving for jihad. And since Hajj is the jihad of a woman, accepting polygamy for the first wife is more than jihad. Is ther daleel for this, or do you know about another reward?.

Praise be to Allaah.
 

 

Firstly: 

We do not know of any saheeh evidence which refers to the
reward mentioned, but al-Tabaraani narrated from Ibn Mas’ood that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has
decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with
patience out of faith and in the hope of reward will have a reward like that
of a martyr.” This hadeeth was classed as da’eef (weak) by al-Albaani in
Da’eef al-Jaami’ al-Sagheer, no. 1626. 

Secondly: 

A woman’s being patient in obeying her husband is one of the
means of entering Paradise, as it says in the hadeeth narrated by Ibn
Hibbaan: “If a woman offers her five daily prayers and fasts her month
(i.e., Ramadaan) and guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be
said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you
wish.’” This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Jaami’ al-Sagheer, no. 660. 

Her patience in putting up with her husband’s marrying a
second wife will bring a special reward over and above that, for several
reasons: 

1 – Her husband’s marrying another wife is regarded as a test
and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the
reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in
full, without reckoning”

[al-Zumar 39:10] 

According to the hadeeth: “No fatigue, nor disease, nor
sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, not even a
thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will expiate his sins thereby.” 

Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5642; Muslim, 2573, from the hadeeth
of Abu Sa’eed and Abu Hurayrah. 

Al-Tirmidhi (2399) narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Trials will
continue to befall the believer, man or woman, concerning himself, his child
and his wealth, until he meets Allaah with no sin on him.” Classed as saheeh
by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 5815. 

2 – If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and the
other wife well, she will have the reward of al-muhsineen. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by
abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good
deeds), and is patient, then surely, Allaah makes not the reward of the
Muhsinoon (good‑doers) to be lost”

[Yoosuf 12:90] 

“Is there any reward for good other than good?”

[al-Rahmaan 55:60] 

“And verily, Allaah is with the Muhsinoon (good-doers)”

[al-‘Ankaboot 29:69] 

3 – If she feels angry because of that, but she controls her
anger – and controlling one's tongue is part of controlling one's anger –
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“…who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah
loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good‑doers)”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:134] 

This reward is in addition to the woman’s reward for obeying
her husband under ordinary circumstances. 

A wise woman should accept whatever Allaah decrees for her,
and she should realize that her husband’s marrying another woman is
something permissible, so she should not object to it. It may be that this
(second) marriage will make him more chaste and prevent him from doing
something haraam. 

It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their
husbands doing haraam things than to their marrying another woman in a
permissible manner. This is a sign of their lack of reason and religious
commitment. 

Women should follow the good example of the wives of the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his companions,
who were patient and sought reward even though many of them felt jealous. If
your husband goes ahead and takes a second wife then you have to be patient
and content and treat him well so that you can attain the reward of the
patient and the doers of good. 

Note that this life is the life of trials and tests, and how
quickly it ends. So congratulations to the one who is patient in obeying Allaah in this life until he attains eternal delight in the gardens of Paradise. 

And Allaah knows best.